Change… What are you going to do?

Change… What are you going to do? 

So, when people decide to give up an addiction, they are agreeing to make a major change to their life. The benefits of change can be wonderful, but change also comes with the unknown. It takes a great deal of courage to change and to let go of old habits. As soon as you stop using, that doesn’t mean that the process of changing is complete. It continues indefinitely. Anyone who builds a successful life away from addiction will constantly face changes and challenges. It is part of what makes their life away from addiction so wonderful. 

So…Why is Change Necessary 

The reasons for change are pretty obvious, and necessary if you want to live a productive life. 

Let me paint a picture for you; if the human race was unable to get over the resistance to change, we would still be living in caves and struggling just to stay alive each day. Not all change is good, but the process of change is vital for survival. 

If everything in life just remained the same it would soon become boring. Change is what keeps life interesting and makes it so wonderful to be alive. Without change, it would not be possible for those of us who have taken a wrong turn in life to get back on track. People in addiction and in recovery would not be able to escape their addiction and nobody would be given a second chance. It is not just people recovering from addiction who can have problems with change. It is a common difficulty that many people struggle with. 

The most common reasons for resisting change in recovery are: 

Fear of the unknown

Accepting change almost always involves taking a leap of faith and some people struggle to do that. This is why so many people will remain trapped in their addiction. People who lean towards being pessimistic about change, are the most likely to fear change, because they most often expect things to turn out badly. 

Not seeing a need for change. 

People in this position view new innovations as an attempt to fix something that is not broken. In this light, change becomes something that is going to be an unnecessary hassle. However, it is true that changing things for no real reason can be a waste of time. 

The comfort zone

Even if the current conditions that these people are in are far from ideal, they get used to where they are at and where they are at. It 

takes effort to leave the comfort of the familiar. 

Others are telling them they have to change or else… 

This almost always leads to resentment and resistance, even when the change is likely to bring beneficial. Most people are more likely to approve of change when they feel they have a choice. 

The Importance of Change 

If people are new to recovery they will need to be prepared to make many changes to the way they do things. It’s pretty obvious why the change is needed. One of the most repeated sayings is that, if you keep on doing the same things, you will keep on getting the same results. 

So here is the reality of life: The world is constantly changing. Those who resist change are fighting reality. Of course, this does not mean that people need to accept every proposed change. However, it does suggest that they need to choose their battles wisely. Some change is going to occur whether people like it or not. 

The way that people develop in recovery is by meeting challenges in life and overcoming them. The more they do this the better they get at it. Overcoming a challenge in life usually means changing behavior. Resisting this makes it impossible to overcome obstacles. Change is what keeps life interesting and exciting. Living in a bubble where everything stays the same is boring. It is only by embracing change that a person can get the most out of life. Memory can play tricks on people, especially as they get older, (uh I can relate to that). The old way of doing things can seem far more attractive than it actually is. 

So here is the reality of life whether you are a normie or someone in recovery.Change… It’s a part of life, it’s a BIG part of the people we become…and NO ONE and I mean NO ONE can even achieve their full potential and become the person that they were meant to be, without change! 

“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new.”   Socrates 

Thanks for stopping by… Luke -D


10 Best Indie Music Blogs To Submit To 

Are you looking to submit/promote music? Or perhaps you are a music fan? We’ve compiled the ultimate list of the best indie blogs of 2021!

1. Santa Rosa Records

Santa Rosa records is a Texas-based indie label, publishing company, recording studio, and curator of obscure music from around the globe and across all genres. 

The selection of music in this blog is fabulous. Each post is concise and to the point. There is also a section dedicated to interviews exploring artist’s creative processes in more detail. 

If you are an artist and have something you think Santa Rosa Records would dig, shoot it their way. 

2. Various Small Flames 

Make yourself a cup of coffee and enjoy reading this blog made up of interviews, reviews, previews, mixtapes and … books! The choice of including literature is probably due to the fact that one of the editors (Jon) is also a writer and PhD candidate. 

Various Small Flames is dedicated to sharing the music from independent artists, especially home recordings and DIY labels, so send them your tunes! 

3. Chances with Wolves 

“Chances with Wolves is not a radio show, it’s a state of mind.” 

Chances with Wolves is your ultimate mixtape provider. Get on SoundCloud and follow them – you won’t regret it. 

The website counts 388 mixtapes episodes and has a store where you can buy branded t-shirts as well as cassette mixtapes. 

Each mixtape is about 2 hours long and most tracks on them are funky and, as some of the Soundcloud users observe – “dope.” 

4. Obscure Sound 

What’s more indie than obscure music, right? Obscure Sound is all about turning up gonna-be-hits. The blog’s been around since 2006, when then-PopMatters-writer Mike Mineo decided to strike out on his own to cover emerging music. 

If you’re an “emerging” artist, this is a good site to submit to. Reviews are short, sweet, and to-the-point, and there are a bunch of good playlists that you’ll likely get added to if you get approved. 

Plus, Mike just has good taste. 

5. Indie is not a Genre 

Indie is not a genre covers news, reviews, live events, new album recommendations and interviews. Scroll down at the bottom of the web page and you will find out that indie is really not a genre, with different sections dedicated to pop, rock, electronica, singer-songwriter, post punk, psychedelic and punk. 

The website started in Germany in the summer of 2011 and soon grew into an international project. It won the top 50 alternative music blog award! 

Send them your music by using the about/contact page. 

6. Indie Central Music 

Alex, Adam, George and Stephen will help you unearth new music every week with their UK-based indie music blog. The website also includes a radio and indie central music TV. As one of the editors explains in the introductory YouTube video: if you are one of the biggest fans of the smallest bands, you want to subscribe to indie central music. 

7. Cougar Microbes

Whether you are an artist or a music fan, Cougar Microbes is a blog you should check out. With a team of 11 writers, the website covers interviews, introduction of new artists and live events. Cougar Microbes also posts a music video from a different artist every week, if that’s your thing. 

If you want to submit your music to this blog, you should do so using Fluence or SubmitHub. Due to the fact that the team receives more than 300 submissions per day, they do not accept email submissions anymore. 

8. Atwood Magazine 

Atwood Magazine has an obvious passion for music. From their about page: 

“We are celebrators of creativity. Atwood Magazine is an independent music journal dedicated to providing authentic writing, engaging, insightful editorials, and unique perspectives on music.” 

They “aim to showcase not only incredible creation, but also the stories behind them.” 

With features on up-and-coming independent acts getting placement beside industry stars, Atwood is a great platform to get your indie music heard. 

9. The Owl Mag 

“Owls are nocturnal and wise, like our readers” – explanation from the blog owners on the choice for giving the name to the project. 

With its numerous freebies such as ticket giveaways, The Owl Mag is the music fan’s delight. Although these freebies and the live shows reviews are San Francisco-based, the blog will allow you to discover new music from all over the world. 

10. Earmilk 

Founded by Montrey Whittaker and Blake Edwards, Earmilk is an online music publication based out of the United States and Canada. With Dance, Hip-hop, Indie, Electronic, Experimental and Pop articles, Earmilk covers all tastes and genres. 

Like Cougar Microbes, Earmilk uses the SubmitHub platform for its music submissions. So artists, what are you waiting for? Send your music their way!



A little over 2 months ago, we were still making plans to attend shows and album release parties, adding tour dates into our calendar, and making plans with friends and family after work and weekends to support our favorite artists. But all that seems a little far away as the last few weeks, and specifically last few days, have been heavily inundated with the saddening news about the Coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic and the impact the virus is having on society — cities and towns across the globe both large and small, industries, the economy, and communities — severely impacting several pillars of everyday life for many, including music and entertainment. 

While all of this is chilling and hard to wrap our heads around, we have the power of music to connect through lyrics, chords, and powerful melodies — even while we have to listen and watch, likely alone, and definitely indoors. And thankfully, we also have technology to support our creative efforts. Technology over the years has been used to empower artists, giving them the tools, resources, and support to bring their music to fans worldwide. Now is most certainly the time to embrace the power of technology to strengthen, unite, and bring music communities together. 

Where can I find the most up to date, accurate information about COVID-19? 

Simply put: the World Health Organization. Consistently updated, this is the most up to date,  accurate place with information to keep you, your loved ones, and neighbors safe and healthy. It’s overwhelming reading all the news out there and different opinions. Stick with the World Health Organization to get what you need straight from the source. 

I’m an artist, what live streaming resources are available to me to perform for fans? 

Music Business and industry writer and expert Cherie Hu put together a free, 21-page comprehensive document of live streaming and other virtual resources for artists. Prior to the last few months, live streaming was added value for those who couldn’t attend concerts or other live events. It was used to further promote shows, leverage the world wide web to bring in fans across the globe. But, as Cherie says, it went from being a “niche” or “nice to have” format to “being imperative for ensuring global accessibility and reach amidst extreme conditions such as the COVID-19 outbreak.” As a means to connect the world through this difficult time as well as attempt to alleviate the devastation of cut tours and finances, live streaming of home concerts and more intimate shows or living room jams are already kicking off in full speed and will be something we’ll see artists utilizing a lot more of in the coming weeks. 

I’m a fan, how can I help independent artists? 

Rev. Moose, founder of the Marauder agency and producer of Independent Venue Week in the United States, says that in an effort to help artists, many people are focusing on sourcing alternative revenue streams. Some of these include labels donating proceeds to artists, livestreams offering a way for fans to connect with artists and buy tickets for virtual shows, or donating to a fundraiser. 

He also says it’s important that people take note of their own personal ability to create change. “We can be responsible not only for where our own money is being spent as a consumer, but also the decisions that we guide others to make…It’s up to us as a community to create an economic support system for all levels of the creative industry that feed into our business. 

With that in mind, here are some ideas to help your favorite artists right now: 

Be a music tastemaker. Share the artists you’re listening to with your colleagues by creating a playlist. Share this playlist with your company in Slack channels and in Google Hangouts. Share this playlist with your family and friends. Add it to your email signature. Share songs on Instagram or DM on Twitter. This is a very scary time and sharing this music may make things feel a little better and the world a little bit closer. Here’s a graphic you can use and share directly to your Instagram. Fill it out and share with friends! 

Follow these artists on social media if you don’t already, including Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. You’ll feel more connected this way, especially now. Tune in to a livestream. Artists now are finding alternative means of sharing their live music and performances with fans from their home. Follow the artists you care about on socials and tune in to their performances. The more viewers, the more streams. 

Stream and buy music. Whether you’re working from home or taking an at-home yoga break, stream your favorite artists’ music. Artists rely heavily on touring and while this won’t equate to how much artists can make while on the road, it can and will help. Keep listening to music to feel connected. Want to support record stores? Here are some ways you can. 

Buy merch. You’ve been eyeing it, so now’s the time. Buy that favorite hoodie or beanie you’ve seen artists promote on their socials, wear it, share on socials and tag the artist. 

Drop a Venmo and add your favorite emoji. Music will always bring people together. To help artists directly, follow them on Instagram and Twitter and see the messages they’re sharing on their own accounts. Did they share their Venmo, Paypal, Buy Me A Coffee account? Donate to support their creative work. 

What organizations and initiatives are out there supporting creators and those who work at impacted creative institutes? 

Charities like the Recording Academy’s MusiCares already have established programs to support various financial, medical, and personal emergency needs of artists daily and they’re hitting the gas pedals to accelerate during the COVID-19 crisis, committing $2 Million to the COVID-19 Relief Fund. 

If you’re in a position to help financially, consider donating to MusiCares to continue to allow these institutes to support artists’ needs across various pillars of their life, while now also dealing with the major economic repercussions of COVID-19.

In addition to providing financial and educational support, MusiCares is an ally for all artists who are on their sobriety journey and they recognize that addiction can thrive in isolation. They encourage musicians to use the power of social media and technology to connect with their family, friends, and colleagues. It’s important to stay connected, even while social distancing. Take these action items into consideration: practice meditation, exercise, and call people who also need support to tell their story and share yours. Humans need to feel connected to other humans. 

Interested in supporting MusiCares socially? Share your support with custom overlays and templates you can use for social media and add a donation sticker to your stories to encourage others to donate. 

For those based in the UK, Help Musicians, similar to MusiCares, is a yearly ongoing platform for supporting artists across various aspects of life, including during times of need and opportunity. Check in here on various updates regarding COVID-19 and specifically how Help Musicians can help you if you’re based in the UK. 

Spotify has created a Spotify COVID-19 Music Relief project that directs peoples towards “verified organizations that offer financial relief to those in the music community most in need around the world.” Organizations that Spotify’s COVID-19 Music Relief project works with include: Help Musicians, MusiCares, and PRS Foundation, and more. Spotify will match every dollar up to ten million dollars.

How can the music community support independent venues? 

During a time of social distancing, there’s been thankfully a lot of emotional support already in the music industry and emphasis on what needs to happen now in order to preserve the past, present, and future of the artists, venues, businesses, and individuals that make the music industry what it is. As Independent Venue Week states, “Whether it’s pushing attention towards crowdfunding, putting catalog on sale, or just trying to steer the conversation, it feels like the industry as a whole sees how potentially dire this situation will be.” 

So how can the music community support independent venues during a time when all venues are supposed to close their doors until further notice? 

“We [at Independent Venue Week] are doing our best to provide a platform for peer support, so those on the front lines don’t feel like they’re completely alone. Past emotional support, we’re working on implementing direct information sharing between venues in a manner that was previously only available to the largest competitors in the marketplace. Due to today’s climate we’re moving faster than we might have otherwise envisioned, but the ideas are being put into motion.” 

Obviously, the most immediate way that music organizations can help is to “[create] financial solvency not just for music venues but for those whose livelihood depends upon those businesses,” Moose, from Independent Venue Week, adds. 

How can I take care of my mental health when I feel like everything is out of my control? 

Things definitely feel out of control right now. Please know that even though social distancing seems to be the new [temporary] norm, there are people and resources out there, online, at your fingertips, to help. The Canadian Association for Suicide Prevention talks about how to care for your mental health in times of uncertainty, including separating what’s in your control vs. what isn’t, challenging yourself to stay present, and the importance of staying connected. 

Mindfulness and meditation app Headspace just announced new efforts to manage rising stress and anxiety levels. Co-founder Rich Pierson stated, “To help people around the world deal with these unprecedented levels of stress, we are working hard to expand access to our meditation content to help folks manage anxious thoughts, build mental resilience and navigate through this uncertainty.” 

A new “Weathering the storm” collection in-app feature on Headspace includes a variety of free meditation, sleep, and other alternatives to support during this time. Go to the Explore Tab in Headspace and start today. 

Similarly, the Calm App says, “Take a deep breath. Let’s meet this moment together.” They’re sharing some tools they’re using to take care of their minds and stay grounded. From free soothing and sleep meditation to also forms of practices to find ease, take a look through their library to prioritize self-care. 

Talkspace is offering subscribers a COVID-19 Anxiety Management Program. Now for a limited time, they’re offering a special for $100 off subscriptions. 

Backline connects music industry professionals to mental health wellness resources. As an ongoing support system for those seeking additional support during COVID-19, Backline has been hosting an online support group and community meditation. Follow them on Instagram for updates on the next session. 

Tour Support looks to support professionals across the live music industry providing mental health tools and training to those specifically in touring. They formed a partnership with Better Help to purchase counseling

Lastly, The Orchard’s Mind, Body, & Soul YouTube Channel offers inspirational messages, mindfulness practices, meditations, breathing exercises, Reiki, Yoga, Tai Chi, relaxing music and more. 












Are you standing at the crossroads? 

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis 

Many years ago, somebody came up to me and asked me what I did for a living, and I answered truthfully: “I’m in a rock band.” She thought it was cool, but I went into a rant about why it wasn’t. 

“Creative work is definitely more perspiration than inspiration. The constant travelling and playing late night gigs is exhausting. The ‘business’ side of ‘music business’ is a joke,” I fumed. 

On and on I went. As you’d expect, she was pretty shocked. But it was her words to me that made me stop in my tracks: “Wow, what happened to that dream!” 

We all face obstacles in pursuing our goals, whether they’re professional or personal. 

We think we’re on the right track but realize we’ve chosen the wrong approach. We’re enthusiastic and hard-working, but our support system disintegrates when we need them the most. We’re just about to make significant progress when we run out of time or funding. 

Tenacious as we may be, we all have our breaking points—that moment when the potential rewards stop justifying the effort. Usually, that’s the hump that separates your best shot and your best reality. 

It’s a tough road ahead when you get sidetracked and things start fading out and your goals seemed to have gone on the wayside, because your vision of what you are trying to achieve is not what is important to everyone you are trying to help or get help for. Sometimes your voice just isn’t being heard or listened to. So what do you do? Do you just give up and throw in the towel, or do you just put your head down and go for it! 

So here you are at the crossroads. What do you do? Where do you go?  

Life's crossroads create opportunity for us to choose between different options, and when we see someone embracing the moment when choices are decided upon, it can be awe-inspiring. A crossroad is about change. Choices must be made -- not just when things are not working out as we had planned, but also during positive moments when we must choose to continue the course or veer off into something new. When we experience an ending in a marriage, a change in careers, political upheavals, the end of childrearing, or challenges with our health, the crossroads we find ourselves facing can either inspire us to choose differently, or during these moments of change we can paralyze ourselves with fear. 

Making a crossroads a moment of profound and lasting change and learning how to thrive when life's changes descend upon us can be learned. 

Here are some key’s to weathering life's crossroads: 

1. Just don’t settle for normal. When our habitual response leads us to what is expected and customary -- when we choose ordinary -- we can expect the unremarkable.  

2. Please do not resist. Attempting to control, manipulate or force things to happen is a typical response to the fear that comes with change. Some of us will be so fearful that we refuse to make a change without understanding that even if we choose not to make a decision or take action, this in and of itself is a choice. Our learned way of coping with stress and uncertainty should be reevaluated constantly as we evolve in this world. Move with the changes instead of against them. 

3. Do Yourself a Favor and Trust your deepest feelings for guidance. We all know, deep within ourselves, what we need to do -- what we know, how to think, when to trust -- during times of crisis. We can learn to access and trust our innate wisdom; it is personal and always available. Through this, we will know how to adjust our course, move toward our personal destiny. When we don't follow our inner guidance, we feel a loss of power and energy. 

4. Take a Chance and Dream bigger. Change what you expect from life and then create a plan and work to cultivate the right conditions for your growth and success. 

5. Try to Limit the distractions and strive to create balance in the midst of chaos. When we let go of our own or other's agendas and when we push away the demanding concerns of the moment, we are able to hear our own thoughts. Do less at the moments of crossroads and give yourself the gift of time -- time to be in the present moment. Respect the value of being here and now. Ask yourself, "What is the one area of my life that needs more balance?"  

6. Failure is not an option. It's just another way to start again. When we face a crossroads with fearlessness and the choice turns out to be prosperous, we are hailed as a genius or visionary. When our choice creates failure, then we are judged harshly, ridiculed and diminished, and it has the potential to make being fearless more difficult when we face the next crossroads. We must remember that failing creates not only additional opportunities for success, but fosters courage and determination in those of us who are brave enough to attempt it. 

When I'm faced with fear at life's inevitable crossroads, I have learned to "let it rip" and charge "no holds barred" into the abyss -- if for no other reason than to see what is there. I have emerged out the other side bloody and battered at times, but I'm stronger for having risked, taken a stand, trusted and believed. 

Thanks for dropping by... Luke D